Why these people first felt like an adult when they were 60 years old.
When MarketWatch asked when readers began feeling like adults, he said taking care of his mother has forced him to grow up more than ever.
Experts have said besides financial costs, taking care of parents has many emotional ones, including feelings of guilt during any times spent away from those parents and potential conflict with other family members who disagree about the parent’s care.
I just realize it’s me now, and nobody else basically, and I have to make all the decisions.” Thornton was working in a sales support role at the Dallas Morning News at the time, and took a buyout in 2008 to move back to Iowa, where his mother lives.
Thornton is not alone.
Mary, a 62-year-old living in the Chicago suburbs, who asked that her last name be withheld, had thoughts similar to Thornton’s after taking care of her mother, who also had Alzheimer’s.
“Although I raised four children myself, I would say that the onset of my mother’s ‘absence’ did make me feel like an adult for the first time.
Mary and her mother had been estranged for many years; when Mary needed her mother’s help caring for her own children, her mother declined.
Caregivers of all ages have more risk for their own health problems.
“I’ve been feeling alone,” Thornton said.